FAITH IS….

They say faith is the substane of things hoped for adn the evidence of things not seen.
I do beg to differ because the bible clearly states that “NOW faith is the substance of things hoped for and the evidence of things not seen.”

There is a big difference in wording and a big difference in the word of God. The word of God is only effective if you properly speak the word just as God gives it and you must believe it in order to see the manifestation of HIS word come to pass in your life.

Now I said all that to say this; How long have you been waiting on God to send you a mate? being single is not easy nor hard but oh so necessary. God gives us according to scripture the desires of our heart. We shall reap if we faint not. How many times have you fained by settling for less than you deserve because you were impatient?

How many times asa single man or woman of God have you missed your Ruth or Boaz because you fainted during the process? Just becuase it may seem that God is taking to long to you, does notmean the promise has been denied. It simply means it has been delayed because God forsaw some things concerning you or the future mate. However, be not weary in your well doing because God’s word will not and can not lie.

You must do your part as well. Be prepared, get your credit somewhat together, have a plan, a vision, some goals and start a savings account.

When God looks at your life and how you are waiting in the process, it will either speed God up or slow Him down. it all depends on YOU! HOW you wait and what you are doing while you are waitng. Are you patient? Are you a complainer? Are you diligent in the things that God has required of you? Are you praying, fasting adn busy in minsitry? Is your house clean? Are you clean? These are steps in making sure you are at least half way there while you are waiting.

Don’t give up or do not give in. It is a process, a purging and pruning must be done in order to be developed into the man or woman God has predestined you to be.

You are in my prayers!

Luvv Kizzy…..

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Love That Covers…..

When love covers it causes the eyes to see through the heart
When love covers it penetrates your past and promotes your present
A love that covers will fly you into your future
And open your eyes to finally see who you were along

A love that covers is pure and persistent
A love that covers endures the hard times
And will celebrate with you in the good

A love that covers, comforts and creates an atmosphere of serenity
A love that covers, will shelter you in the storm
And push clouds out the way
So that you can live in the SUNshine and the SONship

A love that covers emulates the love that Christ expresses
A love that covers is unconditional and without boundaries
A love that covers is what God gives and should receive

When you have encountered a love that covers
Keep it, cherish it and embrace it
Show it and Share it

It is rare and unique
It is Godly
It is Love in the rarest form of friendship, relationship and Godship

A love that covers should cause you to bump into your future and dance with destiny……….

A love that covers
A love that covers
A love that covers

To Love or Not To Love…….

Today as I sit here in Starbucks, sipping on some decaf coffee and meditating on life, ministry, love and relationships I somewhat came to a loss for words. Reason being is that most relationships and marriages I have seen are not conducive to house real love only lust. It does not emulate the epitome of love nor does it express godly love. Since I had been single for a while, I had gotten used to being alone. I found myself content being single and once I evaluated other relationships I had no desire to be in one. I guess if you have never seen or had real godly love that can turn your heart, open your eyes, stimulate your mind and give you hope then you will question does true love really exist.

I still believe that there are some men out there that know how to SHOW love and make love to your mind before they ever touch your body. I do believe that there are some men out there that will love god more than their mate. I do have hope that God is still developing some men for the single women who desire to be married. I don’t believe in judging all men the same because there are some men who desire the same as we do. Real love, a praying woman of God, a woman who does not nag, a woman who still believes in cooking and cleaning and not just dining out and traveling all the time. Women still desire an old fashioned guy who believes in taking care of home literally and working hard and treating her how God desires her to be treated.

So relationships are a two way street. You have to give and receive. You have to love to be loved and you have to pray in order to be prayed for. The bible says that he who finds a wife finds a good thing AND obtains favor with The Lord. So, if in fact the man chooses the woman God placed in his life and that he prayed for, then when he marries her; he receives an extra dose of favor from God. Now that to me sounds like a double blessing!!!! He already honors marriage so, to then get favor added is a double blessing!

Ladies if you desire a Boaz please have some Ruth qualities. Ladies if you are praying for a husband, please be marriage material. Please marry for love and companionship on top of other things. Because when you are in a season of disagreements you need to be able to LOVE past that even when you don’t like your spouse! Marriage is work, marriage is ministry not just sex! Don’t open up a man or woman’s heart if you are not prepared to minister to them! Don’t take n responsibility if you are not prepared to be responsible for that individuals life the bible declares that the two shall become one. Make sure that your mate is in the will of God for your life because the last thing you should be is married and miserable!

Men please make sure you understand what it is you’re taking on before you step from relationship to marriage. Always be friends first! Get to know the woman, take your time and most importantly make dating fun, develop a prayer life together. Always take important steps as far as getting your credit together before marrying, get counseling and make sure you LIKE one another. I know a lot of couples that’s just dealing with each other because they feel stuck but they can’t stand each other.

Date who you want to become. What I mean is, don’t date someone who is a dope dealer, no future and a bunch of baby mama’s if you’re looking to build a business, travel and make investments to better your life and lifestyle. That makes no sense to me. Sometimes you have to upgrade and force your mind to go with you. It’s called growth! I heard someone say that she wanted a business man, gentle with a little bit of thug. All I could do was look dumb founded. What?! No, no, no! What you need to do is et your mind right, re-evaluate your standards, requirements and get to know Jesus. Get YOU together first. Because last time I checked, Bill Gates did not have an ounce of thug in him, yet he’s a gentle business man with loads of money.

Sometimes ladies you have missed your blessing and you just gotta wait until God feels you can handle and will accept who HE desires you to be with. But most times there is no substance and patience in women and some women don’t know their worth so they settle and marry the first thug with some slacks on! Silly women is what my pastor calls them! I agree!

Men marry someone who can pray for you and with you. Marry someone who can make your money grow more than she spends it. Find a woman who doesn’t mind being dedicated to the home, cooking and traveling but loves God more than she loves you. Those are the women who normally gets spoiled and well taken care of. She compliments her man, makes him feel like a million bucks and also makes him look good in public.

These are my thoughts as I sit here sipping n my coffee in Starbucks………

What’s The Point??????

I often get asked the question why am I single, why am I saved and single when God honors marriage and why do I take my walk with God so serious? The only answer i can give anyone is whats the point of me being saved, single and celibate if I am not going to walk the walk that goes with the talk I talk???? What is the point of saving myself for marriage and waiting on and in God if I do not believe HIM and take HIM at HIS word concerning my life and HIS will for my life???

God gives me undeserved favor, HE gives me mercy and grace on a daily  basis  and yet I still falll short but not in those areas. I am far from perfect but nowhere near how I used to be and I owe that to the man upstairs. God gave HIS only begotten SON that I may live a life of freedom, abundance, overflow, peace, love and joy so why not live a life souled out to HIM and while I am at it receive healing, the fruits of the spirit,the gifts of the spirit, protection and I can go on and on. He has been better to me than I can ever be to myself. It took me a long time to get where I am spiritually and now that I am here, I will not go back.

Being single is not easy, but what’s the point in believing God for a mate that will be a blessing and not a curse if I do the norm of an average person., I do have balance but I am not afraid to tell people that I do not club, drink, smoke nor have sex before marriage any longer because GOD delivered me. I am so glad to be free. The hell I endured when I was not saved and when I did backslide, I can not afford to miss GOD anymore. My life is a teestimony and being single and saved adn celibate gives hope to other singles that it is possible. It is worth the wait. It is rewarding to you but pleasing to GOD when we wait on HIM. What is the point of being saved if you know in your heart you would willingly have pre-marital sex, club, smoke,, drink and a slew of other activities that hurts GOD???? I know, I k now, most people say; GOD knows my heart adn HE knows my struggle. To me those are excuses when you know better. BEcause you know better,, you should be better. I understand babes in Christ are still growing adn those who are nelwy converted are still growing and learning but those of us who outright know the truth and the bible and are being taught adn have been taught for a while, WE KNOW BETTER!

Certain individuals like to go  back and forth with me concerning these topics but there is no need because I have scripture to back it up and that is that. I do not bother, not love them any less because no matter what, because of who I am in GOD, I must stand up for what is right adn I do not judge but however I do not sugar coat anything to spare your feelings because do you spare the feelings of GOD when you open your legs to have sex with a man that is not your husband or a woman that is not your wife???? Do you spare the heart of God every time you curse someone out, belittle the next person or don’t pay your tithes???? So, with that being said what is the point of receiving salvation if you are going to just play games with yourself because trust me, you are not and can never play GOD, you will only set yourself up to get played by the devil himself.

What’s the point of half way livng right? what purpose does it serve?  Do you half do your job at work? No, because you want that paycheck at the end of the week. Do you half raise your kids? No, because you want them to grow up and be somebody in life. Does GOD half way bless you, protect you, keep you or cover you???? NO! So, why are you skimming GOD on living righteous and holy???

I am saved, single, celibate and proud because finally I am living a life I can be at peace with and I am pleasing my heavenly father. I am setting myself up to be blessed and to be ablessing to others. This is why I live for The Lord.

That is my point…….

 

In My Heart……

In my heart, I wish and pray daily for all singles that want true  love that they shall find just that. Including myself! Yes, i tooo prayed for God to sustain me until He sends me my mate, but I too want a real love in my heart. In my heart, while being single…I will wait on the Lord, be of good cheer and focus on ministry &my career. Has it been easy? NO! but has it been worth it? YES! so many men inbox me on Facebook adn try to date me, so many men approach me while I am out &about, so many men are afraid to approach me because I am saved, for real about my walk with Christ and they feel maybe they just do not measure up to the par. Ihave had some men go off on me because they say I am too holy because I will not lower my standards&that it is all baout God and that I wont slep with them before marriage. Well…..Oh well and goodbye

Whatever the case may be, I am sure I am not the only one this happens too, male and female. Sometimes it is funny and other times, I am looking at those emails like. “really dude”. A for effort maybe but all in all, an F for the lack of communication and the fact I can see through the lies or the make believe life you are portraying. One thing I can say is never feel like texting me all day is a way to get to know me, nor emailing me constantly on Facebook nor liking my pictures on Instagram.

I am sure I am not the only one who experiences these situations. Ladies and gentleman, the best way to see if they are sincere is invite them to church, but not only invite them to church but allow them to meet your spiritual parents! Ask about his prayer life, what is his communication skills like or lack? Does he serve in ministry, is he responsible on his job & how does he treat his mother and mother of his kids if he has any?

 

I am not saying it is not okay to date, however use wisdom and discernment. In my heart, I want whats best for you all , but guess what GOD wants what is best for you too!!! Wait on God and experience the best HE has in store for you. Never settle becuase you are tired of waiting, never settle because it looks the part! Never settle based on his or her finances. it is more to it than that.

I finally am at a point where I dont mind waiting on GOD or waiting IN GOD. I have dated all the Mr.Wrongs, Mr. Magoo’s, Mr. Pretty Boy and the list goes on, but  today, I am in love with Jesus and I love myself!!!! I love me some me!!!!

In my heart I want what GOD has for me. In my heart I want what is best for my fellow singles because we deserve it and we should want it for ourselves as well. In my heart I believe GOD will bless our waiting period. HE has not forgotten about us singles!!!!

 

In my heart I do know that as we study the word of GOD and becoime closer to HIM, HE will order our steps to meet the right person at the right time in the right season of our lives, I do belive waitng on GOD will allow us to be free from heartache and pain that is unneccesary and harmful to us spiritually and physically. I do believe that in waitng we will blessed beyond our wildest dreams and GOD wille xceed our expectations! Waiting is a process that proves patience.

 

God has not forsaken us nor left us, even in those lonely m oments you are not alone. never get impatient because of lonliness! Wait on GOD. I believe in my heart that what God has for you is worth the wait. You are worth the wait and be not discoraged because your latter shall be greater than your former.

I do believe in my heart that when a MAN finds a Wife he finds a good thing adn obtains favor with the Lord, so with that being said; ladies allow that man of God to find you. be patient, be still and know that HE is GOD.

 

Singles; Your Past Does Not Define You……

Your past does not define you. No matter how many relationships you have been in, no matter how many times you’ve been cast out or down trodden. No matter what you’ve done, who you’ve hurt or who has hurt you; your past does not define you!!!!

No matter what people say, no matter what they think, who they are nor where they come from or their financial status. You are not defined by your past!!! Hold your head up high, love yourself and your life and know that you are forgiven and move forward. Put a smile on your face, embrace positive energy daily and surround yourself with positive people who don’t judge you based on your past, people who don’t look down on you, people who are not afraid of your beautiful and bright future, people who are not fickle, people who pray with and for you, people who embrace you with all your flaws and people who are genuine.

Your past was mean to teach you lessons, to help you mature and to develop you into God predestined you to be. God knew you would make all the mistakes you made before He formed you in the womb of your mother. He knew you would face hardship, He knew you would lie, she,e ad be deceitful. He knew you would face being homeless, no job, no car and without a dime in your pocket living with other people. Guess what??? God also knew He could trust with His anointing, He also knew He would turn your mess into a powerful message, He also knew that He could and would wipe away and forgive your sins. That’s why He sent His only son to die on the cross so that you and I could live and be redeemed back to Christ.

As you grow and mature in life, as you learn lessons, as you become the man or woman God planned for you to be, embrace it and don’t allow anyone who is afraid of your future and the success it will have burden you with their thoughts and opinions of your past. Tell them you no longer life their so why do they? Who are they to judge you and ridicule you? Everybody has a past. Get over it because you are moving forward.

And if in fact you are single, no worries. Allow God to heal you and develop you and bless you, as you are focused on God and ministry and living a golden life, God will send the the perfect individual that’s just right for you to come into your life and be everything you ever wanted, desired and prayed for in a mate.

Until next time, I love you all and God bless!!!

Singles Surrendering All

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We should be so hidden in God that our mates have to seek God to find us. Get caught up in God that even if He never allows you to get married, you will still trust Him even the more. Ministry is more than going to church. You may be the only God someone else may ever see.

Feeling……

Are you “Feeling Yourself”????

If not, what is stopping you from loving every bit of who you are????
If not, who is beating you down emotionally and mentally?????? And why have you allowed it????
If not, is it fear of who and what you can really become???
If not, is it because you’re single and feeling rejected????
If not, is it because none of your past relationships have worked out???
If to, have you been in an abusive relationship???
If not, has it been hard to bounce back from a lay off???
If not, is it because your bills are behind???
If not, what is it that’s keeping you from being all you can???
If not, don’t you know that God is not pleased????

God created you to beautifully and wonderfully made in the image of himself. God hand made you to be great, beautiful and successful. He created you to be SOMEBODY and to let your light shine so bright that your very essence has a glow as you move to and from in this life. So, you should be feeling yourself.

I don’t mean for you to be conceited, arrogant,prideful or judgemental. I mean to own who you are. To carry yourself as royalty. Yes, I said royalty because you are an heir to the kingdom of God. You are royalty. You are a Kings kid, and you can not continue to settle for less or even treat yourself in a lowly manner as if you don’t deserve what God says you can have.

You should be feeling yourself knowing that God is on your side, He has your best interest at heart and He wants to give you nothing but the best. That applies in your career, your dreams, your life, your personal life and in ministry. God said He will withhold no good thing from you. You mean that much to Him that He wants to give you what you NEED and what you WANT.

Are you confident enough to believe it??? Are you confident enough to know that you have a right to have what God says you can have. Do you have enough faith to know that if you just believe it you can have it??? If not, we need to change that today so you can start feeling yourself and feeling the love God has for you.

What will it take to get you motivated and going in the right direction??? What will it take to get your mind focused on the things of God? What will it take to make you believe you deserve all good and godly things in your life??? A vision board maybe??? A prayer life maybe??? A life coach??? A membership at a gym??? A new hairstyle or a new wardrobe??? Whatever it is, get to working on it ASAP!!!

Surround yourself with positive people and energy. Write little sticky notes of affirmation and post them all around your house. Send yourself a daily reminder on your phone that you are beautiful. Walk with your head held high. Have a confident stride about yourself. Smile more, laugh often and know that you are loved. Do what ever it takes to start feeling yourself. Always remain prayerful and read your bible if its just one scripture a day. It keeps your mind clear and focused so that you can always be in a state of mind where you’re feeling yourself. Don’t allow nobody and I mean nobody to make you feel bad because your light is shining, you’re smiling and doing your thing!!!

Never dim your light that others may shine. No no no!!!!! That’s not God, that’s the devil. And if others choose not to be around you because you are feeling yourself, exclude yourself altogether and know that God will send the right people in your life at the right time to help you celebrate yourself and your new found freedom.

It’s time to start feeling yourself, feel good about yourself and take care of yourself.

Take time out today and reevaluate the things in your life, your mindset, your attitude and if you really have any self love and if you know your self worth. Take this time to decide that you are worth every bit of happiness, growth and blessings that God has given you the right to have. Make better choices concerning your life, start to travel and enjoy this life of yours. After all, you only have one.

I hope this day becomes day one of a new you, a new life and you truly begin to start Feeling Yourself!!!! Peace, Love and Joy!!!

New Life

There is nothing wrong with starting a fresh, new life. There comes a point in your life where what you have been doing just doesn’t work anymore. At some point, things get old, things get boring and some things and people you just simply outgrow. When you’re at this point, what do you do??? Start a New Life for You.

Change is good, when it is to better yourself. Change is good when it creates a better environment for you. Change is inevitable when you begin to grow, your mindset begins to change and you decide that you want more out of life itself. Change is bound to happen, has to happen when you begin to live your dreams and make them a reality.

When you go from single to married, things change. When you go from an apartment to a house things change. When you go from walking to having your own car, things change. Seasons change and life itself changes. So you see change is inevitable in every aspect. If you don’t change, you will become stuck and stagnated. Nothing happens in this state but misery.

Sometimes, most times, often times, when YOU begin to change the people around you begin to change because they are uncomfortable with YOUR change that’s going to make YOUR life better for YOU. Either they will adjust and respect and still love you or they will begin to act funny and distance themselves. So, the saying, “no new friends” doesn’t always apply. But you have to be confident in who you are and the decisions you’ve made to stand your ground and keep moving forward! Don’t allow nothing and no one to keep you bound to a life that sis not work for YOU but it works for them. Nobody has time for that!

Always keep in mind that strangers will celebrate you before friends will support you! Be not dismayed and be encouraged because with God all things are possible, you have a bright future ahead of you and good and godly things will come into your life because you had enough courage to live your dreams, so they have to become reality.

A new life awaits you. A new life welcomes you and a new life may be just what you need to feel better about yourself. A new move, to a new city, a new atmosphere, a new scene and yes maybe new friends. If you don’t do anything else in life, do you! Especially when it benefits you, makes you a better person, a better business person and it brings you peace,love and joy. Be encouraged to live your dreams on this day. Those dreams will allow you to embrace a brand New Life.

These are words I spoke to myself this morning.

Why Not????

Who says being single is a bad thing??? Who says that it’s not okay to be single, in love with self and the life you live and actually enjoy it??? Who says that a single person is unhappy and miserable without a mate???

In my opinion, Why Not be single???? Why Not live life to the fullest while being single??? This morning I realized that I’m in the prime of my life. I’m a single mother of one college aged son and I have more dreams to accomplish and achieve. I’ve tried the dating scene, I’ve tried dating the saved and unsaved, I’ve been encouraged to try the dating sites, in which I couldn’t. Today I realized that nothing else matters at this moment in my life other than my happiness!

Why Not embrace my right now? Why Not fall in love right where I am today? Why Not chase after my dreams even the more and do everything I ever wanted to do??? Can you ask yourself the same question? Can you fall in love with yourself and do whatever you want to do without being tied down,without having to ask or consider another person and without having personal deadlines or times to be here nor there??? Why Not just do you??? What’s so bad about being single??? Sure we get those every now and again, quick but short feelings of oh that couple is adorable or I wish I had a date to watch this movie, but Lord knows I would rather wait for whoever that perfect somebody is for me than to settle ever again. What about you guys??? I don’t want a mate just to have a mate, yet I’m miserable. I don’t want a man just to have a hand to hold or a neck to hug just to say I have one. What about you guys???? How do you feel regarding the single life??? How are you enjoying or not the single life???

I’m happy for those who have someone and they are truly happy. But I’m also happy for myself because today, I’m on a mission to be happy being single. I’m on a mission to accomplish every goal, make every dream a reality and use this me time to get to know me a whole lot better. I hope other singles can relate to what I’m saying and feeling. I hope singles realize it is actually a blessing to be single and live a full abundant life. Don’t think marriage is all about sex. It’s real life work and ministry. You are dealing with this person 24/7 and that’s 365 days a year. Year after year. So please I encourage if you are seeking marriage, take your time and enjoy your singleness. It’s okay to date, take it day by day. Maybe you guys were meant to be just friends. However, this single life is all about how you make it out to be. It can either be fabulous and fierce or it can miserable and mundane.

Make it a life that others are confused by your single happiness, joy,love and laughter. Although, life can give you a hundred reasons to frown, take the other thousand reasons you have to smile and do just that; SMILE!

Why Not be happy, loving,joyful,bold and beautiful all up in your singleness????
Why Not be all you can be as a single individual??
Why Not make single look fabulous honey????

Being single isn’t about dating everyone who asks you out, being single is about getting to know YOU and making single beautiful.

What’s your opinion on the single life???

Why Not join the movement ??? The Single Movement, at least until God sends you who He has for you??!